If you have ever confessed your sins to a brother (I trust you have), even if he was a good, tender-hearted [174] true man, full of sympathy and helpful words toward you, did you notice how it went against the grain, how hard it was to come out with the matter and tell the whole of it just like it was and without excuses? That is because you love and regard yourself, and are covetous of the good opinion of others even to verging dangerously near to false appearance. But when you related your brother's sin to another (and you were not very particular to whom), did you notice how lightly it came from your lips, and how easy it was to tell every whit of it just as it was (if not worse) and without pleading the least excuse? That is because you do not love and regard your brother like you do yourself; you are not jealous of his good repute as you are of your own. Now the law said: "Love thy neighbor as thyself." But Jesus in a new commandment says: "Love one another, even as I have loved you." And he loved us more than he loved himself.

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