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SISTER SILENA MOORE HOLMAN (1850–1915)
Congress of Mothers
by Mrs. T. P. Holman
(GOSPEL ADVOCATE, 27 May 1897)
For a week or two past, the papers have had much to say about the Congress
of Mothers which met at Washington City Feb. 17–19. There were
about 1,000 delegates in attendance. Representative women from all
sections of our broad land and from every walk of life were present, and
for three days discussed motherhood and its influences in every possible
phase.
“The highest social authority in the capital dubbed it the
proper thing,” and the meetings were attended by such throngs of
people that it was difficult or impossible for large numbers of those who
desired to attend to find room. As announced by Mrs. T.W. Birney, the
president of the congress, the subject before the convention was child
culture, including a considerable range of kindred topics. Women of
national and international reputation had prepared and read papers on
various subjects. Large numbers of those present had for years been
studying the science of motherhood, and some were experts in one or more
of the lines presented.
Among the subjects discussed were: “Heredity,”
“Day Nurseries,” “Physical Culture,”
“Playgrounds in Cities,” “Mother and Child of the
Primitive World,” “Mothers and Schools,” “Reading
Courses for Mothers,” “National Training Schools for
Mothers,” and the like.
This Congress of Mothers but emphasizes the thoughts I tried to
bring out in my article, headed “Wanted—Mothers,” in a
recent number of the Gospel Advocate. It shows not only the necessity of
mothers being aroused to a higher sense of their duties and
responsibilities, but what is better, that large numbers of them are
already wide awake and studying with all their hearts and souls that they
may know what is best in order that they may bring up their children in
the best possible way.
It is a noticeable fact that during the present generation the
value of the little child has, in the minds of older people, seemed
greater than ever before. Such consideration is shown to the childs
wishes, such deference to childhoods simple rights as was never known to
our ancestors. The first effect of this new order of things has been
largely to the childs undoing rather than to his benefit. Wishing the
very best possible for their children, parents defer to their wishes in an
unreasoning kind of way, granting them every possible natural or
artificial desire, never denying them anything in their power to give
them, until the child grows up thinking that every want he can formulate
must be gratified, while his character lacks the stability that a little
wholesome self-denial and a proper discipline would furnish. The arrest
of thought came years agone. The hand of our Father was tracing in dim
hieroglyphics on the mothers brain the value and importance of the little
child he had given her, and her duties and responsibilities to this
immortal soul he had intrusted to her keeping. But—alas!—her
eyes have been dim, and she has been unable to grasp the meaning of the
living characters traced there. Trying to read them, and catching a
glimpse here and there of their meaning, many mothers have gone far astray
in their endeavors to pursue the proper course. But, again, many are
learning to read them aright, and more and more people will do this until
“the science of motherhood shall come to claim its rightful place of
dignity and power.”
Dwight L. Moody thus outlines his ideas of the destiny of women,
and I agree with him most heartily:
“I think the work of women in this world should be, above
all, the rearing of a family. God gave into her keeping the souls and
characters of the young to make or to mar, and surely there is no nobler
or more responsible work than this. From the home, the domain of woman,
spring most of the highest impulses of humanity, and to fit her for her
great work the Creator made her of a finer cast than man. There is
nothing on earth so good, so pure, so exalted, so near this ideal of
character as a good woman. . . . I believe that all things else being
equal, the happiest woman is the woman who is a mother.....”
How may mothers know what is the best course to pursue in solving
the thousand and one perplexing problems that arise in the bringing up of
their children? This is the disturbing query in the hearts of thousands
of anxious mothers, and these and other thousands are working out their
own salvation along this line with fear and trembling: for the proper data
for the correct study of this question is not so easy of access as it
should be and as it will be in the future.
The first and most important step is to get on the right track to
begin with. Consider not alone what is for the childs temporary good, but
what is best for his future and eternal good. Keep that always firmly
fixed in the mind, never wavering from it for a moment. Get the best
thought by the best minds on the subject, and read and digest it
carefully. The literature of the subject is augmenting rapidly. Magazine
articles, pamphlets, and books are easy to be found by the earnest seeker.
One should be supplied with plenty of this literature, and read and
compare and glean for ones own use the best of all. Often a number of
mothers in the same neighborhood agree to meet together weekly and discuss
the subjects, read and compare notes. These mothers meetings are getting
to be quite common in many parts of the country. Many such meetings are
now held in various parts of this State, and in every State of the Union
they are doing the same thing. In the State of Illinois alone last year
2,000 mothers meetings were held, with an attendance of 8,000 women. The
thoughtful, earnest inquirer after truth, properly equipped with the best
literature on the subject, can give and receive many helpful suggestions
in meetings of this kind.
This Congress of Mothers was the outcome of the awakened thought
of the nation along this line. I would that I had space to give even an
outline of the lines of thought on the various topics discussed. Some of
the thoughts presented were infinite in possibilities for good if followed
up; others, as might be expected from a gathering of imperfect beings, not
practicable, possible, or even best; but all was calculated to set people
thinking along lines where there has been too little thought and stir in
them the desire to secure all that is best and possible for their children
in this world and the world to come.
It is said that the best teachers are not they who teach the child
the lessons they would have them learn, but they who teach the child how
to learn the lessons for themselves.
If in these articles on motherhood I could but succeed in
directing the minds of even a few mothers along proper channels, and get
them to investigating these questions for themselves, as terribly in
earnest in the matter as mothers ought to be, I should feel that I had not
written in vain.
(e-text: JoAnne Toews)
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